Uncomplicated love…

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Uncomplicated love…

Having experienced the complex nature of life and the difficulties we as adults’ layer into our lives, I am left wondering why we all find it so hard to just have uncomplicated love?

It truly is that simple, love can and should be uncomplicated…
The truth is we, and I mean all of us!

We….. have some kind of life-based complications, be it a previous relationship, trauma from childhood, or grief from losing a loved one.

I am not judging anyone when I say that either…

God knows I have made my fair share of lousy mistakes…

And as I have said in other posts, my knees are grazed from falling from grace, and I never said I was an angel…

But we are full of potential! All of us, the potential to learn, to understand and potential to reflect… to be more and to do better… We may find that those we have hurt are not able to forgive us, or maybe they feel that not forgiving means we will walk in more pain? Who Knows?
What I do know and I can tell you is that you… we…. Need to forgive ourselves, the burden of pain is increased when we hold on to guilt, and we force weight of such thoughts and feelings upon ourselves. I spent a long time holding myself responsible for things that were just not my fault… something I think all people do if they have any semblance of self… and regret acts as a fuel for this feeling and behaviour.
So! Uncomplicated love? Well its simple really, to love based on compassion, to be able to forgive for the sake of the soul, to understand that we are perfectly imperfect, that its ok to make mistakes, to listen to a real and pure apology and be willing to understand the person when they explain themselves… but mainly, not to judge what we do not understand… each of us has or carries some kind of special pain, something that is personal to us…

I wrote in a post recently that depression is one of life’s most destructive illnesses, and its also something that people almost immediately judge people for… if someone says, “I have suffered from depression” then you can almost guarantee that at some stage someone will judge them without understanding or being willing to understand… and as I said then, the most brutal example is when a mum suffers “Post-natal depression” the guilt of not feeling well, or connected to their little-one is enough, but to be judged by others at the same time is simply not ok… which is why we must want to uncomplicate love…

The truth is compassion is becoming less of a human trait, the intolerance of emotional illness or acceptance that someone has grief or trauma to navigate is more prevalent now than ever… If you look back at those who we now admire… those men and women who changed perception for good, the reality is at some stage in their lives they made mistakes, they had experiences in life that made them want to be better. Experiences that made them want to change the world for good…

Life changes, we move on, we close chapters and open new ones, but we also love… and sometimes we love with a depth that will mark us for life… should we regret that love? No! not in any moment should we regret… We should take that moment and unwrap it. We should let it sit with us, we should feel it… know we have held it in our hands, kissed, touched and explored it… Most of all… we should celebrate it for what it was… because in the moment of embrace, in its most naked and pure moment of expression it was uncomplicated love ~ The Motive

Author: Only One, But a lion!

Only One; But A Lion! Writer, blogger and explorer of life... Writer, blogger and explorer of humanity-single dad-story teller-giver of hugs... wiper of tears- I am imperfect.. but hope is eternal 💕 Exploring the Motive of Conversation, events, who we are and how to heal from trauma... These are my words, from my soul, bound with hope, love and a willingness to share, to open the minds, hearts and souls of others ~ Hope - it’s the best and last of all things ~ The Motive

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