Your individuality, your dreams, your hopes, and your trauma deserves to be honoured…. It is your song, you are the composer, it is the music that accompanies your life…


Your individuality, your dreams, your hopes, and your trauma deserves to be honoured…. It is your song, you are the composer, it is the music that accompanies your life

“There are going to be things that resonate with you. Things that no one else will understand. When it settles in your bones, like it is home, welcome it. You will believe in things that others will think is wrong, but figuring out who you are and what you have faith in is a personal journey. You mustn’t allow anyone to tarnish or plant doubt in the things that bring peace and light to your spirit.” – Stacie. Martin…

The above quote has so much power written deep within its words – we, and I mean all of us on the planet have dreams and hopes. The fact is there will always be times those dreams and hopes are not aligned with the vision or perception of others who are in your personal orbit… The challenge in life is not letting the opinions of others or the words they speak or write about you become your story… I did this, I allowed the noise, stories and words of others to become so powerful I let my own dreams and hopes fade – it is not ok to give others this much power over you… And you can shake off those words and their meaning anytime you are ready – Because they are not your reality, they belong to someone else and those people simply do not know or understand your journey… Only you know how you feel, only you know the thoughts that have settled deep within the marrow of your bones. And only you know what you have had to endure, deal with emotionally and physically as you walk every step of that journey.
Every single one of us deals with their reality in different ways, I learnt over the past years that how hurt settles in the body and mind also impacts our ability to share our story… this is huge, and I mean potentially the most powerful aspect of life. How we translate trauma into a story we feel safe with is a complicated aspect of life. If we have some kind of experience, how we chose to share it is a complex and sometimes impossible journey.
One thing rings true as I now know, trauma, deep trauma is not an easy thing to explain, even more importantly its not somethings people will readily understand. People will judge and you will experience many different responses. Most of all be careful, be careful of who you share these moments with… not because you should not share, not because you must remain closed, but because as you deal with those difficult things, those people you believed cared or loved you, will use them as their reason to leave… This is not just my experience, this is generally how life plays out.
I am not for one minute suggesting that we should not share our deepest dream and hopes, or our most painful moments, I am suggesting that we are careful with the souls we share them with…
“Scott Stabile” says it all in his quote – “Find People who can handle your darkest truths” this is where love and trust reside… because once the honeymoon period is over, and life is evolving for us, we all get to a stage where we want to share all of ourselves, not just the joy, the happiness, but the bits from the dustiest parts of our soul…
Scott’s words resonate with this aspect of life…


“Find People who can handle your darkest truths, who don’t change the subject when you share your pain, or try to make you feel bad for feeling bad. Find people who understand we all struggle, some of us more than others, and that there is no weakness in admitting it. In fact, few things take as much strength. Find people who want to be real, however that looks and feels, and who want you to be real too. Find people who get that life is hard and who get that life is also beautiful, and who aren’t afraid to honour both of those realities. Find people who help you feel more at home in your heart, mind and body, and who joy in your joy. Find people who love you, for real, and who accept you, for real, just as you are – Scott Stabile…

if I achieve any one thing on this journey of sharing myself with you all, it is the reality that no one has the right to destroy your heart, soul and the spirit within you. To remind you that you are unique and your dreams and hopes mean something, to you, and if you are with someone who loves you it should mean something to them. If I achieve anything here sharing my story, let it be that from my pain, my failures, and my willingness to share from the place deep within my own soul that you – all of you, are able to understand that your dreams and hopes are real, they deserve to be held in a place of honour… and your pain, your trauma is real for you… and as such should also be held in a place of understanding too ~ Leo

Author: Only One, But a lion!

Only One; But A Lion! Writer, blogger and explorer of life... Writer, blogger and explorer of humanity-single dad-story teller-giver of hugs... wiper of tears- I am imperfect.. but hope is eternal 💕 Exploring the Motive of Conversation, events, who we are and how to heal from trauma... These are my words, from my soul, bound with hope, love and a willingness to share, to open the minds, hearts and souls of others ~ Hope - it’s the best and last of all things ~ The Motive

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