Reflecting on life 🙏🏽

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Reflecting on life.

I’m often left in awe of the way life can and often does provide us with messages. Moments of reflection that resonate energetically and emotionally. These moments often come when we are least expecting and if our hearts and minds are open they reach all the way into us and land exactly where they are supposed to land…
My parents were both in the music industry. But it was my mum who truly gave me the gift of loving music… all kinds of music too, from ELO to classical to queen… I want to speak to the latter…. my mum was a huge queen fan, as am I. She loved them, had a love of Freddy Mercury’s energy and often made comment on his willingness to just be himself… this has been one of my life’s most important lessons too… I’ve often found my most difficult times have come from moments where I’ve just not been true to my own self and I’ve compromised my soul by wanting to please others…
I watched the movie bohemian rhapsody on my flight yesterday and at the end I cried… why? Because the lyrics from the beginning of the song “we are the champions” has in my own journey been so true… it’s always amazed me when we are open to receiving what’s being spoken or shown to us… live aid was one of my mums biggest music moments… she was overwhelmed by the event and that is one of my most beautiful memories of my time with her as her eldest son… but getting back to the true essence of this post… reflecting on life!
This is a skill I think! Something that is not always present in people, understanding our impact on others and how they receive our messages… and equally important is the way we receive theirs. In sitting on the flight in my own bubble yesterday and emotionally opening to the words of the song I realised the moment of reflection I was seeking…
“I’ve paid my dues, time after time – I’ve done my sentence, but committed no crime – and bad mistakes, I’ve made a few.”
I wonder how many others have walked this journey? To be publicly vilified whilst actually just doing what they needed to do to get by and cope with their moment in the darkness of their life decisions… For Freddy Mercury it was hiding from himself… I’ve experienced this kind of difficult journey, people become indifferent and often judge whilst not even knowing what’s truely wrong…
My mum, a survivor, an amazing woman who in the end knew about life…
What is it to reflect… I thought about the people I’ve loved… my children… who are beautiful souls… and those who have made a difference in my life… ex partners mainly… some who were equally beautiful and some who were in their own place of darkness too… what ever it takes to reflect… understanding humanity is the true key to forgiveness and being at peace with yourself and those you love ~ The Motive 🙏🏽❤️

Live your life impressing yourself!!

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Life’s reality – I spent an amazing week in NZ, had time to re connect with friends and share the journey of life with them… the facts around EGL and the sadness of things untrue written about my books and myself… we are in the end not responsible for the behaviour and actions of others… only the decisions and actions we make as people…

The difference I think is the time spent with those you love and who love you… my decisions to evolve and learn from these experiences has changed my point of view. The words I wrote in my last book still resonate with me, however they are less important to my own journey now…
– why?
I’ve come to the conclusion that people will always put their spin on something, they do not always understand or have the intention to understand… in the end they will always judge you… so don’t live your life trying to impress others – live your life impressing yourself ~ The Motive 🙏🏽😊

Thought and memories are also found in the heart ❤️

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People still believe that the brain and mind are where thinking and memories are held… truth is our bodies carry muscle and emotional memories.. the heart is intimately connected to the brain and as such carries thoughts, memories and emotional trauma… we can and often do suffer from a broken heart… grief, trauma and love are all emotionally connected to the heart too…

My own journey has been to understand this and why we become lost in our own pain or humanity.. why we make mistakes in our decisions and thinking… the heart remains our true place of wisdom when holding on to emotional thoughts. The complex nature of thinking without logic but with love or compassion… those thoughts are not thoughts or feelings of the brain, they are feeling of the heart…

The heart is in the end the aspect of our body that holds the physical events. Ever wondered why fear or excitement makes the heart beat faster… it’s an emotional signal that says this is a decision or memory… it’s the heart that feels love.. and responds to it. ~ The Motive 🙏🏽❤️

Don’t hold onto someone who ghosts you…

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When someone you’ve loved walks out of your life and they can’t be bothered to check in on your sanity, health or wellness… let them go on their way.. wish them peace and light and look towards your horizon… but honour their presence in your life…

This is an important message they are sending you when they simply just ghost you…. that you are not worth anything to them, the love you gave was not worth anything to them… and the fact that you’ve owned yourself and had courage and the wisdom to reflect on yourself means nothing to them…

life is hard enough, we are living breathing beings, not toys or items of clothing… we are not things that can be replaced. We are unique, and if we’ve let our most human experience become our souls experience then we should find peace in ourselves… it is not hard to whisper the words “I pray for your peace, I pray for your safe passage, and hold gratitude for what you gave me.”

its not about long conversations or attachment, it’s about honour of what was given… it’s simply honour of what once was… we have become a species that discards life… be it other people or the planet we live upon… take time to remember we are a life… we are a soul that was once a child…

just because they treat you like you are worthless doesn’t mean you are worthless… it means your worth is going to be seen and felt by others who love and respect it in a way that helps nurture your soul… selfworth is important, but so is feeling loved…

if nothing else, just feel this for a moment…

to love and honour someone who’s no longer a part of you is your souls way of honouring what you gave to them… that your journey was real… your gifts were real and you are not disposable… live knowing someone will love you the way you love… it they have gone… something more is coming.. ~ The Motive 🙏🏽💕

Hope… a personal journey with the potential to heal one’s soul…

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Hope! It is such a personal thing, holding hope for life, for love, holding hope for peace and forgiveness… but when should we give up hope? When should be stop holding on to past love, past relationship’s?

“Forgiveness is the release of all hope for a better past!” – Buddy Wakefeild

I Have read so many posts on media saying let go, don’t let them back in, don’t speak to them, don’t, don’t don’t!!! But love, real LOVE that we have held, nurtured, and felt, just doesn’t go away. There are multiple levels of love, called “SOULMATES” or “TWINFLAMES” these phrases are spiritually real, and although some would consider them nonsense, the reality is we are drawn to those who feel a deeper connection to our own soul, be it an earthy or a spiritual connection…

Yes, there are people who will or have used you as a stepping stone in their life, who spoke about love, who may have even said the words “I love you” but let’s be honest with life, honest with ourselves and honest with each other. If someone has just slammed the door of life shut, refuses to communicate and most of all refuses to offer you forgiveness.

Take a breath and let that feeling of hope for that connection go.
As Najwa Zebian shares in his quote, “do not deny your soul its rights”
“The day I decided to forgive you”
“Today,
I decided to forgive you.
Not because you apologised or because you acknowledged the pain that you caused me, but because my soul deserves – Peace…
I will not deny my soul its rights”
it’s not that you have to stop feeling love for those who have left your life, it’s not that you must treat them with the same distain, in fact you must offer them love and light. More importantly it’s that you must give yourself room to breathe and emotionally settle back into your own oneness.
Hope, much like other forms of faith is based on feelings, experiences and lessons learnt, we all hope for love, we all hope for deeper connections and we ALL hope not to be hurt or let down again… all of us… We are human and we will make mistakes, we will fail and we will experience trauma of many kinds in this lifetime. It is hope that gets us through those moments, hope that is bound to us on a deeply personal level, our own feelings of what is real for us.
The difficulty is that there is a BIG difference between healing from something and ignoring it… Time alone doesn’t heal every wound… The difficulty of not having closure and holding hope is that Time will not heal when hope keeps feeding the desire to remain connected to that moment, be it love, trauma or grief…
If we hold on to hope, we must hold on to it for the right reasons, hold on to hope to help dreams come true, love to blossom and happiness to come… There is no point of holding on to hope that someone in your past will come back, or will re-open to you… especially if they have closed the door on your life without empathy or compassion. Let them go… Let hope be something that brings love and light to your life ~ Leo – The motive

Helping others when you are lost too…

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There is a special place that the soul resides when those who are struggling in their life and are lost in their own trauma give others the help they need…

This level of compassion and support is beyond the norm.. I know! I did this, gave all of my self to help someone else whilst in my own pain, trauma and grief…  moments where my own disparity and my own journey were cast aside to help someone who needed love and care more than I did…

this act is love, it is pure commitment to offer compassion and kindness in the face of adversity and grief… when a soul offers this kind of love… the kind of love that is beyond the norm, it has the potential to save the one receiving it and destroy the one who gives it… be careful of this moment in your life… because when they are healed and no longer need you they will dispose of you…

have the wisdom to learn this lesson, no matter who you’ve been or how you are judged… you’ve been pure in your gift of love and honour yourself in the compassion and empathy you’ve shown even if it was never returned…

life is an echo… eventually you will feel the same love you’ve given and they will find that karma will lean into their life…

pray for love, peace and happiness and walk knowing you did your best – The Motive 🙏🏽💕

My journey – My truth! My gratitude to you all…

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So… for the friends and followers of my blog you will know I have had a personal journey… A journey of gratitude for life. But also a journey of attempting to find myself and salvage my soul from the wreckage of my professional career…

As a CEO of public listed business I found myself facing a question of the heart.. in a world of corruption… stand tall and do the right thing or let fear and the potential to have my life ripped to shreds influence my decisions…
There are no words I can share with you all to explain the feelings of standing in the federal court of Australia and having to fight for your life… It has shown me that I need to dig deeper still.. Not just to stand defeated, but to hold my head up and say… NO! This is not how my story ends…
One of my friends sent me a message after yesterday appearance in the federal court…
“Hey Pete! “Tom” tells me it was a precedence setting affair today, so well done! Time to reflect  on the journey you have been on and be proud of your stance against the might of the machine. Power to you mate! Chat soon. – Gary Harding” 
 
We are here to live life, not to let others control our souls, minds and the way we feel about ourselves, “the might of the machine” – an interesting point of view, I was told my decision to stand in truth will re define Australian case law… that others will benefit from my decisions to stand and speak out..
What I want to share is this… I am not the only person who lost in this experience. Fear and my need to hide myself from the onslaught means I hurt others whilst I was hurting too… those who I loved and who loved me… if I’m to stand in my honour and honesty this is my biggest regret and failure… I also know I gave the biggest part of my heart and soul to support another in their trauma and life changes whilst placing mine second or sometimes last… that is who I am.. to understand the needs of others before my own… there is courage in those decisions… I own them too.. And I’ve forgiven myself… in that forgiveness comes courage…
I wrote a post recently about men making mistakes and that if they are good men and they own themselves, they deserve love too… I stand by the words I wrote.. and the love they were wrapped with..
“ I am not perfect, I am human. I am not invincible. But I have become fearless! Fearless in my pursuit of wisdom and need to do what is right”
This post is not really full of wisdom, it’s more about telling you the truth about me as a person. Not hiding from the battle of hurt, depression or pain, but speaking out about it. Telling the truth about the fallout, the casualties and people hurt, the fact that I needed to feel I had to lie to cover up what in the end is actually a moment of courage – The Motive 🙏🏽