Love, a conversation that lasts a lifetime….



To feel love…

As is one, is the other, it is not for the want of love, but to be loved, in that which we seek the eternal truth of earthly connection.

To be embraced as to embrace another, to be kissed with the desire to return the same kiss, oneness, surrounding the desire to be loved.

To feel with your heart, and touch in the presence of being felt, of ones soul knowing the rhythm of another heart, beating in oneness.

Resolute, in the willingness to share the same heart-song, exploration of another souls intention, to explore you as you wish to explore.

Life, eternal life, lived through love, knowing how to feel, the pain and anguish of love, in depth and despair, the light of it, the dark of it.

The eternal knowledge that love is only love if it’s if it is in the Devine presence of the heart, the soul and the enduring spiritual connection.

Oh, to feel loved,
To feel.. just to feel ~ The Motive.

This is not how your story ends!


“You are you, not what others see or believe, this is not how your story ends!”

It is not in the vision of another persons eyes that we find the love that we seek, it is in the vision of ourselves that we seek to explore love.

It is not in the words of others, and the explanation what they see that we find peace, but in the actions that align us, to be kind in the cold light of reality.

We are all seeking validation, ohh, to know that our deepest though may resonate, the anguish we feel, the grief we have to endure.

Past footsteps, voices, those moments of loss, the storm of life raging within the confines of souls seeking to be seen in the light of their compassion.

To feel the warm breath of whispers on your face, the gentle touch as tears are explored, why? Why are we here, in this darkness?

How can love be given to such a wretched soul, who’s judges this moment in the eyes of oneself, yet to be cleansed of their own impediment.

History defines the present, but not future for which we all crave, to be seen for our goodness, our heart song.

To believe their vision of us, so lost in their own history, in their past, only to be wrapped around you as you offer them solace, as you give that which you seek yourself.

Do not expect kindnesses in the light of being kind. Do not seek compassion in the light of your honesty or ownership of your own actions, for this you will be judged.

We are what we create, but more than that, we are what our lessons teach us.
lessons, moments, thoughts and actions.. our own, to explore and understand.

In the face of adversity one must remain stalwart and steadfast, in the face of negativity never yield to oppression.

look judgment in the face and challenge it, Be all of yourself and know only of the souls beliefs in the peace and integrity of human kind ~ The Motive 🙏🏽

One act of random kindnes is love! ~ The Motive 🙏🏽


Actions ~ one act of random kindness.

The depth of love is found not in the moment a soul connects, it’s found in the way compassion and kindness is given.. true love is found in forgiveness and the knowledge that a deeper feeling of connection is possible…

Love, in its most pure form is the depth of which a soul is prepared to go when the soul they know is their one true spiritual connection is hurting or has made a mistake in life… love is not conditional based on money or things… it’s unconditional based on Pureness and compassion..

Love is all things.. but true love is only found when in the most difficult of times one can reach into the other souls heart and gently remind them that they are truly deeply grateful for their presence…. and then love them no matter what difficulties they both face 

~ The Motive 

Hope! Hope, it’s the last and most personal of all things ~ from the book “The Motive of the conversation”



Becoming the light at the end of the tunnel… 

I read a piece by another journalist recently about the loss of life in the Middle East, I am left wondering how much of today’s global trauma is going unreported or even worse being miss reported so that others may benefit… I’m writing this specific chapter whilst sitting on a flight… As I’ve spent time travelling more over the past 10 years and especially this past 4 years I’ve become increasingly more aware of the lack of interpersonal skills our species has… Whilst I sat down and introduced my self to my fellow passenger, and asked him what he did and where he was heading, I watched others almost squirm with discomfort as they avoided eye contact in the vain hope that I would not engage them in the same conversation. 

But, I’m me, I’m not going to let these guys off so easily, I’m sharing well over half a day of my life with them and want to know who they are… More importantly I want them to know who I am… What has become deeply evident as I write this book and take this journey is that we let the opportunity to experience life at its most precious by forgetting our social need to interact with others… I’ve met some amazing people whilst traveling and now have some really lovely friends because of the willingness to just share a conversation… 

As I looked around the 747 that I’m sitting in, I was also reminded how precious life is, over 400 people all trusting their lives to the skills of the crew and the reliability of the maintenance team that keep these machines in working order… Yes, we are all partners on this journey, bound by one simple need, a need to get to our destinations safety and in one piece.. My love and respect for the crews that keep us safe has over the years of travel has become deeply engrained into my thoughts, and I am always grateful for them, even when they are exhausted and mentally worn out from grumpy passengers… Today’s experience is no different, amazing people who simply care about us as passengers and people. And as I endure weeks of travel and multiple international flights I am reminded to both appreciate and thank them. 

I smiled as I imagined other species of our planet traveling as a group, being a dog owner I let my thoughts wonder… Often watching my own pup happily run up the beach to sniff, greet and play with another dog… At 11 months and 47kg he’s not a small puppy, but he is a puppy and all he’s interested in is playing… Fortunately my fellow beach bums and their dogs are as relaxed as Budda and I, and will often just let the dogs get on with the job of sniffing each others butts and then running up and down the beach like puppies should… The ironic aspect of all of this stuff and why this book exists is because of us… People, our misconception that we know better… I’ve experienced this first hand as a dog owner… Having a “big bread” dog comes with some social responsibility, training them and also more importantly the people who interact with them. I was reminded of this recently as I walked my boy into the off leash dog park at the Brisbane markets, a place that I visit occasionally on a Saturday morning. This has been very social part of my own and my puppies life, in fact I have walked my other dogs at this particular venue. Except this specific day I was reminded that we “people” are sometimes simply lost to the sociability of other species of our planet. 

As my pup walked around the park partaking in the social aspect of being a dog, making sure he had pee’d up every tree, and the occasional person and small dog, something that still makes me laugh and think of budda’s granddad.. My old dog Valentino…  I was confronted by the indifference our own species can occasionally create. My boy trotted over to sniff the butt of a small fluffy white dog, and before he had gotten within 10 feet of the other dog the owner yelled at him and had picked up his dog. Hmmm… The reaction creating a little bit more interest from Budda who then wanted to engage in what he thought was a game… Only to be verbally and physically abused.. I wondered over to this man, and asked him what was wrong. To be told that dogs like mine should be banned… By now Budda was sitting along side of me tail wagging wondering what all the fuss was about and when he was going to be able to sniff the butt of the fluffy white dog, or maybe pee on it… And I quietly hoped he’d pee on the grumpy antisocial man too…

Why am I sharing this? Because it highlights the challenges we face as a society, not knowing the intention of others means we have become guarded, we’ve become overtly aggressive, and in someways sociably inept.. Why on earth would a man take his puppy to a place to be social only to prevent it from actually doing what dogs are supposed to do? It’s not the dogs fear but his own that was most confronting.. Whilst my beautifully trained 47 kg puppy just sat there, and eventually wondered off to play with another dog and pee up more trees… Yes! We have lost our way as a social species… Not that I am saying we should sniff each others butts or pee on each other.. I’m simply saying we’ve lost the ability to read body language and more importantly communicate our intention.. 

When I wrote my last book I spent a lot of time referring to my last relationship and the depth of love I felt for my now ex-partner. An amazing and deeply pure soul, what I realised as I took this journey and spent more time writing this book, was how much I had lost my own way… Impacted by the fear and behaviours of those I’d let influence me. Past relationships and more importantly my own family. It’s not to say my ex-partner was without her own past and difficulties, it’s to say our pasts meant we were not always able to communicate in a space of peace and love.. Letting fear drive outcomes that in truth totally disabled the deeply pure love we both felt for each other, and more importantly creating perception and in the end conflict. Something I still believe we both tried so hard to avoid. What I do know is we both grew and became amazing and loving people after walking as a couple. I for one know my ability to love is much more pure and in a space of happiness now that I’ve completed that journey. It’s also why I wrote the book “the deserving woman” and is still a core part of my inner belief system. 

As for the strange man at the dog park, I put Budda on the leash and we had our normal walk around the market, only to have a couple of complete strangers come up to us and comment on how lovely Budda is and how impacted they were personally by the interaction.. And as I write this book I am forcing my self to remain open to each experience and to look deeply at the choices we make as people, more importantly I’m communicating with more and more people. Which in many ways is a total delight, and I believe I leave each individual feeling touched with my own positivity and hopefully looking at life with a slightly different perspective…  

What else do we have other than hope, it is as I’ve said in previously published articles, the best and last of all things. Hope for all humanity, that in time we will listen to the planet, we have as a species been given a gift, the gift of free thought, to experience life with more than just instincts, the ability to look and understand. This gift must be nurtured and grown, not in a place of conflict but in a place of love, without fear or judgment… Without the need to cast our own opinions on others, but to share our conversations with the right motive. To be the light at the end of the tunnel and to hold on to what should be a more pure motive, the motive of enduring and unconditional love. 

As we close this short chapter in what has become an enduring and compassionate journey of words and experiences, I am pulled back to the opening paragraph and the depth of the words I’ve written, I think long and hard about the innocent souls caught up in a battle of male ego, the Middle East and lives not given the love and respect they deserve. As so called “leaders” of people believe their decisions are the right ones and battles rage… My thoughts wonder to the passengers who were on the pair of air Malaysia flights, and my fellow passengers here and now, my friends, family and those I’ve loved and still love… Life is precious and we must all learn to treat it with the love and respect it deserves. We must all become the light at the end of the tunnel and speak for those less fortunate.. We must learn to listen with the need to understand and to be open to life’s experiences. More importantly to share each connection we make in a place of positivity and enduring hope… 

Love can not survive on love itself ~ The Motive


Love, what is it… It’s not just a word, or a feeling, it’s not an expression, it’s not just one thing…  not one language or one way of being..

Love is a collective of many things, many feelings and many languages… And love brings us as pure souls many paths to walk and feelings to feel. I often asked my self as a child why I love was so hard to feel or have.. But in that part of my life I didn’t know that love was so enduring and full of different forms… Love is like the ocean… 

Pure in its life sustaining ability but also capable of terror… Of creating fear… How did we become so afraid of love… I wonder… But what I am shown now is the pureness of love… True love.. When we can ride the waves of fear and know we are safe to simply ride out the storm and that after that moment a perfect ocean of peace and happiness will form… 

When I am in love… I feel it, know it, and most of all I trust it… A feeling of pureness and safe energy, of harmony and care..  A feeling of balance and openness… I love the soul who simply stands still. Who listens to understand and who knows what’s present in my thoughts… And I ask why… And I know it’s because I trust her… I trust what’s present in her energy and soul… I trust this spirits intention and her vision of our oneness.. Most of all.. I trust that we are right for each other… I love and trust her… This picture is perfect.. It’s not just a moment, but many moments coming together, like many colours and many words… It’s simply pure and truth… 

I feel many emotions in this love, one that I crave is closeness, I miss the feeling of skin on skin, the touch and softness of her body touching mine… I dream of this love… Of feeling her become one with me… The feeling of her body melting into mine and her own body reaching for its own completeness and physical boundaries… I long to feel the deepest love and her soul become one with mine… I long to explore her soul and feel the love flow between us… I see and feel her love.. I know this spirit is my unique bond with the feeling of true love… And I long to walk hand in hand in the happiness of our physical connection… 

Love can not exist on love alone, it needs oneness ~ to endure love must be nurtured, believed and most of all, it must be the basis for every other moment of life ~ The Motive 🙏🏽


Love, Love with compassion, kindness and humility ~ The Motive

my heart

One has a choice to live in Joy, In love, even among those who hate – one has a choice to live in joy, In health, even among the afflicted. And one can live in joy, In peace, even among the troubled.

Look within. Be still. Teach but be free from fear and attachment, love with an understanding of the other spirits vibration -for one to do this is to know the sweet joy of living in the way of balance with the earth.

There is no fire like greed, one should not need to own another spirit or soul but should seek to resonate at the same vibration so harmony can exist in the vision of love.
There is no crime like hatred, no sorrow like separation, no sickness like hunger of heart, and no joy like the joy of freedom. With the freedom to love without fear and with trust.

Health, contentment and trust are your greatest possessions, and freedom your greatest joy. One must accept and never judge – be still in the moment and be free from fear and attachment – know the sweet joy of living in this way – to find the beauty in all moments and seek only balance and positive vibration within ones self.

As human beings we all want to be happy and free from misery.
We have learned that the key to happiness is inner peace.
The greatest obstacles to inner peace are disturbing emotions such as anger and attachment, fear and suspicion, while love and compassion, a sense of universal responsibility are the sources of peace and happiness.

do not let the judgement of others become your vision of the world, seek to embrace peace through compassion free of miss understanding.

~ The Motive

Know yourself, be the warrior within ~ The Motive

Its all possible

In the face of adversity, I will remain stalwart and steadfast in the face of negativity. I will never yield to oppression, I will look danger and judgment straight in the face as I challenge it. My prowess as a warrior, along with my natural instinct to protect with compassion has clad my confidence in situations of great pressure, in which my spirit easily conducts itself. I am myself and know only of my souls belief in the peace and integrity of human kind ~ The Motive 🙏🏽