Fear – You have no influence over me anymore!

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Fear – you have no influence over me anymore…

Fear – you have no control, but you have a seat at the table, but you are to remain small in your energy and nothing but stable.
Fear – You are of little influence in my space anymore, your time in my life is short as I offer you the door. There is no room for your doubt or the lies that you speak, you are to remain silent in your presence and continually weak.
Fear – There is no strength in your desire to hold me back from my peace, your influence on me I completely release. You may want to lean in and stop us taking that leap, but faith in our choices we must eternally keep.
Fear – We know you exist and are a part of our lives, influencing our children and lovers and husbands and wives. You are not to shake love or the soul from within, and your fight to undermine love you know you can never win.
Fear – if you choose after this to remain as I walk life with intention, you must know that your energy is simply an invention, a feeling to place doubt in my way. But your ability to influence has now gone away… you no longer drive or choose what decisions I make, the foundation of life you can no longer shake.
I will not live in fear, I am free to believe, it has a seat at the table but is welcome to leave ~ The Motive 🙏🏽

Closure… I’m Back!

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life can be strange and also it’s most clear in the middle of the storm.. I guess that’s when the eye passes over you…

I am facing the final part of a 2 year journey this week… Australian federal court… holding a group of directors accountable for inappropriate corporate behaviour… and whilst I’ve had to endure… I have made it… Wednesday is judgment day… and as I said… just like Arnie…

I’m Back!!!

To all of my readers, my friends and followers.. your words of support, encouragement and love have kept me going… And although I almost caved and gave up last year a number of times we made it… the moments I lost my way and fell into depression… i found my way… And when I looked up you were all there standing and waiting to accept me for who I am and what I have had to face… including my own darkness and my own mistakes…

There by the grace of god go I…

your love and compassion has kept me safe this past 5 months…

my gratitude ~ The Motive 🙏🏽💕

 

 

Stepping up and owning life takes courage – “You don’t need to be a superhero to get the girl. The right girl will bring out the hero in you.” ~ Wade Wilson

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Stepping up and owning life takes courage, its takes commitment and forces you to dig deep… it’s not what others think – it’s what you believe about yourself that matters…

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Surrounding yourself with positive people who know how to dig deep in life is absolutely the key to the journey of health.
Having people who will not judge as you turn outward and own your stuff.
Those people have been the most amazing part of this chapter of my journey… Shout out to my mates…Craig…. Diving in the red see and Vanuatu… Cannot wait… Kenneth and the Crew… your friendship and the focus on my health and physical well being will drive me forward and back on to the bike and championship level racing again… cannot wait… Phil and the team… manning up for a 2020 run at the Asia SBK championship… Tim, Taylor and the crew at Nova Systems… just dig deep and question the norm boys…

So here we are, and here are the facts…
“Everyone fails, makes mistakes and pays the price. This doesn’t justify their actions or make what they have done ok…

Some of Men Lie, manipulate, and pretend like nothing has happened!!!!
But Great Men will own what they have done. They will stay and face the fire…
They will see the wrongness in their actions, take responsibility for the impact and learn the lessons from their downfall.
And at some point, we need to forgive them (and they need to forgive themselves)

Great Men are not born, they are raised, and some are raised from the fires of their journey. Some have a bumpy path to greatness, whilst others have a meteoric rise and falls.
The measure of men shouldn’t be if we fail, because we will, we will all fail.
The measure should be how he gets back up, learns and evolves.
Some of the best men are ones that have fallen in the past. The ones who fucked up and bottomed out. Why?
Because it strengthens him, allows him to experience the depth of his being and soul, his emotions and his resiliency in the face of adversity.
It’s something we cannot explain, but sometimes we need a good punch in the face in order to smile back and say, “OK” I am awake. And it’s my turn now” ~ @mantalks  
Its all too easy to write people off, but if they are willing to step up, own themselves and be stronger and learn the life lessons they have to endure, then aren’t they the people you want in your life? Those souls who can be more, understand life and turn it into something positive ~ The Motive

People do not abandon people they love…

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People don’t abandon people they love…

I read a post today that said – Walk away in silence from people who don’t listen or disrespect your words… Really!?
Now – you may or may not agree with this post.. you may or may not agree with the opinion I share.. and that is ok…
So, is this who we’ve become? Let’s just stand still and consider the quote! The fact that we are all unique, we as a species have been given the gift of free thought and that we have a voice! Yes! We have a voice… and it’s our choice on how big or small that voice is…
There have been many times that I’ve not agreed with someone, something or some kind of event… I absolutely can not agree with the quote… am I being disrespectful by saying that? We are people. We have a point of view and often I’ve found that I have been shown by others that my view can be off centre or even totally wrong… if I became angry or decided that I would Ignore that person and walk away, how would they or I learn. How would we grow?
Yes it’s ok to place room, distance between yourself and those you feel are not healthy for you in your moment of difficulty… but send them on their journey with love…
So… let’s consider my opening quote… people don’t abandon someone they love!!!
In the absolute essence of being honest I’ve made some huge mistakes and have acted in a totally inappropriate way in past moments..  I’ve owned myself and my actions… never blaming others for my decisions. Yes absolutely there were circumstances and influencers that created my lack of emotional stability and even the fact that I experienced depression… but I never let anyone else own my actions… and as many people have told me… that is absolute courage… standing in truth after hitting rock bottom… grief, trauma and pain… all valid reasons not to cope.. and yes I also feel at that stage my energy would have been awful…
And I’ve experienced listening to the opinions of those impacted by trauma too.. some who were bent out of shape and still in a place of anger and revenge… without compassion.. this is a horrible way to live and I pray for healing for those souls… offering compassion and hope that they find peace…
However, I am a loving and compassionate human, a man that cares… I place the needs of others in front of mine… the fact that my emotional failure came from exactly this behaviour is an example of why we should not abandon those we love…
I’ve written other posts about my Journey and I don’t really wish to repeat the same things… but having attempted to take my life I know a thing or two about being abandoned… and the impact it has on a soul… I also know how incredible it feels to have total strangers lean in and offer loving support… yes… total strangers!!!
So… let’s stand still… let’s understand that it’s ok to have boundaries. To have space.. to have specific expectations and to tell people what you need and deserve from them… All of those things are real and true… and we all have a right to them… to have respect…
But! We all have a need to feel compassion, to be and feel loved… you do not need to ignore someone you love, you do not need to abandon them.. if you love them you need to be courageous enough to tell them how their actions are impacting you.. to sit and share how you feel, to honour their grief and trauma whilst setting in place boundaries that keep you both safe…
I’ve experienced giving myself to someone I loved and thought loved me, giving all of myself to their trauma whilst being in my own moment of trauma and failure… I know what it feels like to be abandoned as i faced myself and said -no I will not let define my life…
I’ve been judged for writing about my personal journey… that’s ok, but as I’ve said before, if sharing this saves one life, keeps one soul from taking their life.. then the comments and judgement has been worth it…
The truth is this! – People don’t abandon people they love, they abandon people they were using. ~ The Motive 🙏🏽😔

Hope… a personal journey with the potential to heal one’s soul… But only in the light of forgiveness!

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Hope! It is such a personal thing, holding hope for life, for love, holding hope for peace and forgiveness… but when should we give up hope?

When should be stop holding on to past love, past relationship’s?

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“Forgiveness is the release of all hope for a better past!” – Buddy Wakefield

I Have read so many posts on media saying let go, don’t let them back in, don’t speak to them, don’t, don’t, don’t respond, don’t give love or forgiveness!!! I just can not buy this kind of noise… its not compassion…

But love, real LOVE… love that we have held, nurtured, and felt, just doesn’t go away. There are multiple levels of love, sometimes called “SOULMATES” or “TWINFLAMES” these phrases are spiritually real, and although some would consider them nonsense, the reality is we are drawn to those who feel a deeper connection to our own soul, be it an earthy or a spiritual connection…

Yes, there are people who will or have used you as a stepping stone in their life, who spoke about love, who may have even said the words “I love you” but let’s be honest with life, honest with ourselves and honest with each other.

If someone has just slammed the door of life shut, refuses to communicate and most of all refuses to offer you forgiveness.

Take a breath and let that feeling of hope for that connection go.

As Najwa Zebian shares in his quote, “do not deny your soul its rights”

“The day I decided to forgive you”

“Today,
I decided to forgive you.
Not because you apologised or because you acknowledged the pain that you caused me, but because my soul deserves – Peace…

I will not deny my soul its rights” 

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it’s not that you have to stop feeling love for those who have left your life, it’s not that you must treat them with the same distain, in fact you must offer them love and light. More importantly it’s that you must give yourself room to breathe and emotionally settle back into your own oneness.

Hope, much like other forms of faith is based on feelings, experiences and lessons learnt, we all hope for love, we all hope for deeper connections and we ALL hope not to be hurt or let down again… all of us… We are human and we will make mistakes, we will fail and we will experience trauma of many kinds in this lifetime. It is hope that gets us through those moments, hope that is bound to us on a deeply personal level, our own feelings of what is real for us.

The difficulty is that there is a BIG difference between healing from something and ignoring it…

“Time alone doesn’t heal every wound”

The difficulty of not having closure and holding hope is that Time will not heal when hope keeps feeding the desire to remain connected to that moment, be it love, trauma or grief…

If we hold on to hope, we must hold on to it for the right reasons, hold on to hope to help dreams come true, love to blossom and happiness to come…

There is no point of holding on to hope that someone in your past will come back, or will re-open to you, especially if they have closed the door on your life without empathy or compassion. Let them go…

Let hope be something that brings love and light to your life… do not give up on hope, just make sure you understand that hope should be kept for the things that bring love and light to your life ~ Leo – The motive